Rachel and I had an interesting discussion last week. She pointed out to me that I often say things that sound like I am making a long-term commitment when I’m really only voicing something I desire to happen in my life. This has made it difficult for her to trust some of the things I say. Here’s an example of a recent statement I made,

with you as my witness, I’m going to lose enough weight to fit comfortably into the pants we bought last spring.

What Rachel heard was that I was going to begin maliciously beating my body in order to fit in to those pants by the end of February. When she saw me eating out or coming home with ice cream, she questioned my commitment to my diet. Of course I had no idea what she was talking about because in my mind, I had made no such commitment to a diet. Instead, what I meant when I made the original statement was that I would like to fit into those pants sometime before next spring!

All this to say, thank goodness for my wife who knows me well enough to notice such things. The truth of the matter is that I do make such statements out of a desire to assure her just enough to keep her from nagging at me when deep down I have no desire to put in the work necessary to actually make such a change in my life. I want to give the appearance that I am making a change without actually taking the steps to make such a change. This makes think about what Jesus said in Matthew 5:37:

Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything more than this comes from evil.

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